Feedback after the first session of coaching

The first coaching session with Leninka was very interesting. In the beginning, when I was the coach, I thought that it will be an easy exercise, but afters a few minutes, I found that it was more difficult that I thought. Indeed, I think that the most difficult part was to listening well the coachee. It was difficult to stay focused on what the coachee, because, even in a private room, there could have a lot of distractions. Also, afters a few minutes, I lot of other thoughts can pass in your head and it could be hard to stay really concentrated on the conversation. Also, the language and the cultural differences can add some difficulties in the coaching session. Sometime, the other person could have another way to express herself or use some worlds that you not necessarily understand well. Also, sometime, it’s difficult to just listening and not interrupt the coachee when she was talking. Indeed, you need to wait the right moment to talk and not do that anytime that you want. I discover that it’s really important to let the other person talk without interruption and to just listen. When your just listen, we became more concentrated, even it’s difficult, about the message and the nonverbal language of the other person. Also, you became more able to give a better constructive feedback after. But, sometime it’s just difficult to remember all the things that she said and that you want to use or talk about when it’s your turn to speak. So, you need to be more selective in the information. 

As a coachee, it was the contrary. Indeed, it was easier that I thought to express myself and my opinion. I was really comfortable to say what I wanted to talk about. I felt free to express myself in a trusted and no judgemental environment. So this exercise made me realize that coaching is really more difficult that I thought when you are the coach and it was little bit easier when you are the coachee. But, despite the difficulties, I had a really good experience and I learned some things about me (like the fact that I need to improve my listening skills) and the other person, Leninka.